Tag untilithappenstoyou

MY FRIENDS, I finally posted another blog post! Today Iโ€™m talking about feeling alone and how we can overcome that. It takes a village yโ€™all! Link in bio ๐Ÿค๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ˜˜
Because we grow up to feel ashamed of our bodies, of how a tank top can potentially distract the boys, that wearing the "wrong clothes" or drinking puts you as the shamed party, that talking about what happened is stupid and you should just move on. That slut shaming is literally an actual thing for sexual assault. That we need to worry about our girls but that "boys will be boys". When will we stop saying "She did this wrong and that's why it happened and instead say "He is a fucking asshole and we will rally around her in support"? We're shamed into silence. This isn't just about the victims, whether they are female or male... It's about realizing that the abuser should feel guilt. Not the victim. As a society, we need to do better. #metoo #crisiscenteroftampabay #untilithappenstoyou #stopsexualassault #stopsexualviolence #nomeansno #healing
It isn't about "dressing modestly" and nobody asks for it. We live in a world where instead of accusing the perpetrator, we victim shame. People make rape jokes like it's a laughing matter. Sexual assault affects women, men, children, trans, bisexual, lesbian, the elderly; everyone. Be conscious of your comments and respect people and their bodies. We should be able to walk down the street or go to a party without fear of being assaulted. No means NO. #metoo #speakup #untilithappenstoyou
As a cisgendered man, I sometimes feel hesitant to share my story, in part because the current state of our society makes it abundantly clear that there is not enough attention given to women who have been victims of sexual assault. I find myself wondering on a regular basis if by talking about my own experiences I would be perceived as attracting attention for the wrong reasons, or if I am a distraction from the greater battle that so many women face each and every day against sexism, misogyny, patriarchy, harrassment, objectification, subjugation, physical violence and, yes, sexual assault. Any person who has experienced sexual violence, whether they are cis, trans, man, woman, gender-neutral, non-binary, or gender-fluid, deserves to be heard if they want to be heard. I have had a hard time figuring out the extent to which I need/want/deserve to be heard. But if anyone feels stifled or "stuck" regarding their experiences of sexual assault, well, I can definitely relate to that. And if you need somebody to talk to about those complicated feelings, I am here. So I'll just leave it at this: #metoo

#UntilItHappensToYou #YouDontKnowHowItFeels
Age 6 | Age 9 | Age 11 | Age 12 | Age 14 | Age 15 | Age 17 | Age 18 | Age 21 | Age 26 | Age 27 | Age 29 | ME TOO โ€ข The crazy thing is, these are only my sexual abuse/sexual assault Me Too's. I say "only" because if I were to list all of the sexual harassment instances that have occurred in my nearly 30 years of life, like all women, I'd be here for hours counting them and even missing a few. There is a big problem. It's not a new problem by any means. This problem has existed for as long as there have been humans who believe they have the right to touch, talk to, and interact with other humans in any way they see fit without permission. This problem has never been eradicated and this problem is not ever going to disappear until every single human, regardless of gender or personal experiences, stands up and says, "NO. NO MORE. ENOUGH. NEVER AGAIN." This problem should bother every living person. This problem should enrage, sicken, infuriate, upset, and break the hearts of EVERY. SINGLE. HUMAN. BEING. There is no room in humanity for this problem. Let's end it. ||| #MeToo #nomore #yesallwomen #untilithappenstoyou #sexualassault #rape #trauma #life #pain #myjourney #recovery #stillhere #struggle #real
I did this meme cover because #abusers are still rampant in our society due to #whitesupremacy and #toxicmasculinity enabling these abusive and violent behaviors. Critique the system because the people and the behaviors are a result of it. But it is also your responsibility to call it out of the people in your life and social circles, as some of us are fighting for our livelihood and mental health every damn day because of it. This is everything from sexism, racism, transphobia, homophobia, islamophobia, classism, and more. Abuse shows itself in different forms that cause different but equal levels of severity on our identity and personhood. Abusers will perpetuate their abusive behavior and wield it as either their own trauma, or as a physical, sexual or verbal manifestation of their bias. It won't stop until they are either held accountable for it and given the tools towards inner self work and self care to heal from the origin of their suffering. Do your part if you haven't been a victim of abuse to help the survivors in your life by holding accountable their abusers. Don't just say "wow I'm sorry, I believe you" to the survivor and continue maintaining non-accountable relationships with their abusers. Don't recenter the emotional labor back onto the survivor. Don't abandon the survivor. Don't smile nicely when you see them and give a weak and pitiful "how're you doing". Ask "What can I do?". And actually DO IT. Actually FOLLOW THROUGH. Don't ABANDON. Silence is the most deafening, demeaning and degrading thing of all. Yet the most common collateral survivors experience. I know, restoration work is hard work. But I am sick and tired and exhausted of waiting for people to have that "until it happens to you" moment in order for them to gain enough empathy and forceful conviction to begin a real accountability process. #emotionalburnout #accountability #restorativejusticeisnecessary #metoo #whynotyou #untilithappenstoyou #complicit #abuse
If you support this actor's work, you support rape. Don't bother commenting about his apology either. If you give excuses for this man/if you continue to blindly watch his work in order to escape from your shitty reality, you're giving excuses for rapists, rape culture, the victims (boys included!), and the over sexualization of women in this FUCKED up society. This is fucking disgusting. And the audience makes me even more sick. #watchthevideo #fuckyourapology #boycottjasonmomoa #BOYCOTTGAMEOFTHRONES #rapeisnotajoke #rapeculture #standupforwomen #untilithappenstoyou #feminism #supportfeminism #partoftheproblem
Just an ordinary person
Doing extraordinary things
Thanks to social media ๐Ÿ’‹โœŒ๐Ÿฅ‚ I'm getting a chance to write about
how and when my life changed so drastically ** there it was in writing
It basically said I had no worth
I didnt contribute
In terms of a dollar amount
I was worth 30 000 a year
That is when I decided to change my life and almost everyone in it
#innerwarrior #knowyourworth #girlscan #knowbetterdobetter
#writer #inspire #influence #create #bethechange #untilithappenstoyou #farfromperfect #keeppushing
#happynationalcomingoutday Story Continuation (2/2) Thereโ€™s more to the story but if you want the full just let me know. So far coming out was great. Iโ€™ve also had a few other problems. Work related problems not everyone are accepting including some gays. Like my co worker. Iโ€™m not against him but he tried tearing me down so many times. After telling him my secret it spread around work but I didnโ€™t let that phase me Iโ€™m still the same person just stronger and not giving up. God ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝโ˜๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ‘‘ had my back and still does. Iโ€™ve learned you canโ€™t trust anyone or everyone but you can learn to be yourself and focus on the good and stay focused. Not giving up on yourself and give love to everyone but also not to tell your business to someone who has no reason to know your business. Iโ€™ve grown so much since then. Iโ€™m still figuring it out and itโ€™s amazing. I just wish racism didnโ€™t exist because itโ€™s a lot of gays that are against blacks in the community and they wouldnโ€™t even know it unless they seen it happen. But itโ€™s okay ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝโ˜๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ‘‘โค๏ธ god is watching and he has my back he is just preparing me and armoring me up for each and every task. Thank you Most High ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ
This song goes out to the Men and women trans or Non-binary who had been abuse sexually and emotional or any kind I'm with you I understand because of my past I cry every time I listen to this song๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ญ #ladygaga #untilithappenstoyou #heartbroken
This is breast cancer... I am the lucky one.. I hate October it's not gimiks, propogandas and PINK ... #thisisreal #bestillmyheart #newnormal #family #october #love #betterthanever #survivor #family #awareness #wegotyou #better #untilithappenstoyou #pink ๐Ÿพ๐Ÿพ @nalieagustin
Inspire Hope!
Be a voice!
Speak up against domestic violence!
#nohate #domesticviolence #domesticviolenceawareness #untilithappenstoyou #survivor
So it's a perfect October evening and you're out for a run, your music is weird but it takes you to your zone, and you're in your zone, running, when two cute guys come running from the opposite direction. You don't change your path, they don't change their path. There's a transcendental moment when you imagine them making way for you like the sea parted for Moses, and romanticising is one thing, now you have completely forgotten to change your path so you keep running towards them and finally they are forced to part at the last moment to make way for you and you run in between them, and it is nothing like the sea parting, and given your lifelong search for embarrassment, this one does not disappoint.
#thishappened #mildlyinteresting #makewaybeforeyoumakehay #lukewarmstoriesofinstagram #instaart #instatag #instastories #red #hibiscus
8 years ago I woke up as somebody else. She was someone who was scratched up with dents here and there, scars inside and out from life and the ugliness it can dish out, but I woke up as somebody who was mostly whole and happy. I woke up not knowing that within less than 12 hours, an excruciating, violent nightmare would begin and I would have no choice but to fight for my life. I was trapped for hours, terrified and frozen in my own bed as my nightmare played out and then began again. Like murder, rape is a reprehensible act that leaves a body defiled; but rape victims live and relive the act and they never get to leave the scene of the crime. Often, we wish we'd have ended up as a murder victim but we don't say that. I've had countless people tell me that the bravest thing thing I've done is survived. Others say I'm "so brave" because I talk about it. I disagree vehemently on both counts. I once read, "The bravest thing I ever did was continue living when all I wanted to do was die." I don't know if I agree with whether that's brave or not and most days, my mind weasels don't allow me to even attempt pondering that impartially. I do know that I don't feel brave. I don't feel strong or like I survived anything other than making it out of one Hell only to be trapped in a different Hell where PTSD, Anxiety, Insecurity, Self-Doubt, and Depression rule supreme. They're our constant companions whispering into our ears how weak and powerless we are. When you 'survive' trauma, the world applauds and praises your strength. It's followed up with the token "but there is no shame in struggling/being sad/falling down" and "we're here for you", all while expecting greatness from you. Like somehow, because you lived through an awful thing that was meant to destroy you, you're now Superhuman. You should not only be ABLE but WILLING to overcome anything and everything. It is utterly unfair and damaging to our already fragile psyches. Those ideas add on a tremendous amount of pressure and unrealistic expectations to those of us who, because of our trauma and our survival of that trauma, are brittle and ready to snap at the slightest disruption. (Continued in comments)
Every thing happens for a reason; every person is in your life for a reason! This has become so apparent to me recently. This is one of my best friends @adriannadt , it has only been a year since she came into my life but she has forever changed it for the better! So grateful for you @adriannadt! Love you so much ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’• #meanttobe #soulsisters #whyarewethesameperson