To name a few: When I was 14, I was stalked by a man more than twice my age. I've had pictures taken of me without my permission. I've had pictures of me taken without my permission. I've been touched and groped and hit on places that I never wanted touched. Too many times to count. So many times that sometimes I feel like I never ever want to be touched again.
When I rejected advances, aggressors--always older, always stronger, always male--always retaliated with violence of some kind. I've never been raped, but there were many times I feared I would.
The sad thing is that many offenses were laughed off or not taken seriously.
The sadder thing is that this dates back to elementary school.
The saddest thing was that I felt like I had to be silent about all of these things and more.
Even the things that don't seem like they're as big of a problem are. For lots of people, abuse doesn't just happen in one instant. For some, it happens over time. It recurs. It escalates. They get trapped in a cycle of abuse; either because it's ongoing, it's happened multiple times, or the trauma continues when they finally have the courage to say something and they are met with criticism or blamed or laughed off.
Sexual abuse or intimidation or assault or harassment of any kind is a threat to a human's ability to feel safe, be happy and healthy, and feel loved. It's a crime and the perpetrator should always be the one who faces the punishment.
At first, I was hesitant to participate in this, but I was tired of silencing myself. I was tired of carrying the guilt for things that I have blamed myself for and that society tells me I should be ashamed of. It's not my fault.
Listen, it's never our faults. Ever.
I want to keep the discussion going. Don't let this die down in a couple of weeks and then never talk about this again.
If we're learning anything from people who have the courage to share their stories, we know that silence is pain.
So, listen. Believe. Validate. Support. Advocate.
Don't be the reason someone is suffering in silence.
Today is Kick Cancers Butt Day! If you donate at http://greatcyclechallenge.com.au/Riders/NinaTetzlaff your donation will be matched by the Great Cycle Challenge awesome Sponsors. Link is in my profile. Big or small donations are all appreciated and are going to a great cause.
Sending LOVE & LIGHT to everyone who is currently kicking cancers butt and those who have survived and endured it. To our friends and family who weren't so lucky and lost their lives - they put up a big fight and your strength is something we can only strive for. PEACE & LOVE x
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Our buddy Brody has a message for YOU in preparation for Kick Cancer's Butt Day tomorrow... Brody was diagnosed with Ewing's Sarcoma just 11 months ago, and since his diagnosis this brave little guy has spent 105 nights in hospital and has endured 20 cycles of chemotherapy, 15 blood transfusions, 18 platelet transfusions and a 12-hour surgery...but NOTHING will stop Batman Brody on his mission to beat cancer!
I just wanted to take a moment to thank everyone and everything that is making my life full to the brim with happiness, love and peace right now. To the people in my life - you know who you are - thank you. To the Universe for listening to me. To my career and hobbies for being a joy to do every day. And to my future, of which I am excited to experience. I am in such a great place mentally and I just wanted to acknowledge that, and also acknowledge the people and things that are making me feel this way. I hope you all will feel happiness, love and peace in your hearts like I do at this moment in my life. 💖
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